Weight Loss No Gym No Diet, Instead Focus On Your EQ (Emotional Intelligence)
Hello, fabulous ladies! 🌟 Welcome to another edition of Wellness Wednesday, your sacred pause in the week to reconnect with your well-being. Today, we’re diving into the transformative power of self-talk and how changing your internal dialogue can significantly impact your weight loss journey and overall health. Get ready to boost your emotional intelligence, shed those pounds, and live your best life with a sprinkle of wit and a dash of professional wisdom.
The Power of Self-Talk
One of the biggest components to success in life is the self-talk that constantly runs through our minds, reminding us of who we are—or who we aren’t. This inner dialogue plays a crucial role in our ability to lose weight. Negative self-talk about your body image, abilities, or worth can create numerous battles on the weight loss battlefield. But don’t worry, we’re here to fix that. Let’s take those negative thought patterns and turn them into positive ones. By consistently doing this, you’ll transform your life, health, and weight loss journey.
Negative Thought Patterns
Before we dive into solutions, let’s identify some common negative thought patterns. This list, discovered by the great Iyanla Vanzant, is a powerful tool she uses with her clients. These thought patterns often stem from past experiences and significantly impact our emotional and physical health, including our weight loss efforts. Here are some of the most prevalent negative thought patterns:
Abandonment
Anger (rage)
Anxiety (worry, fear)
Betrayal
Bitterness
Blame
Criticism
Defensiveness
Disappointment (discouragement)
Distrust (doubt)
Failure (frustration)
Fear
Grief
Guilt
Hatred
Heartache (heartbreak)
Helplessness (hopelessness)
Hostility
Humiliation
Hurt (woundedness)
Inadequacy (incompleteness)
Indecisiveness
Insecurity (self-consciousness)
Jealousy
Joylessness (depression)
Loneliness (longing)
Lost
Low self-esteem (inferiority)
Numbness (disconnectedness)
Overwhelm
Powerlessness
Pride
Regret
Rejection
Resentment
Sadness (sorrow)
Self-abuse
Shame
Stubbornness
Unappreciated (unimportant)
Unsupported
Unworthiness (worthlessness)
Today’s Focus: Blame
Today, we’re tackling one of the most common and detrimental negative thought patterns: blame. Many women on their wellness and weight loss journeys struggle with blame, holding themselves accountable for every mishap. While self-accountability is essential, it does not equate to blame. Understanding this distinction is critical to overcoming this negative thought pattern.
Understanding Blame
So, what exactly is blame? Here’s a breakdown:
Finding fault with oneself and others
Criticism, condemnation, reproach, reprimand
False sense of responsibility for others and their condition
Avoidance of responsibility and accountability for self (guilt)
Claiming powerlessness and helplessness (victim consciousness)
In other words, blame involves making others responsible for your actions or inactions and sometimes taking on responsibilities that don’t belong to you.
Internal Dialogue of Blame
Blame often manifests through negative internal dialogue. Here are some examples:
"You're so selfish."
"It's all your fault."
"I told you not to do that."
"This is what always happens when you..."
"What were you thinking?"
"Why do you always do this to me?"
"You never listen!"
Eradicating Blame: Steps to Transform Your Self-Talk
Now that you understand what blame is and how it manifests, let’s work on removing this negative thought pattern. Here’s a step-by-step guide to transforming your self-talk:
Step 1: Recognize the Blame
The first step is to acknowledge when you’re engaging in blame. Pay attention to your thoughts and catch yourself when you start to blame yourself or others.
Step 2: Shift the Narrative
Replace blame with accountability. Accountability means taking responsibility for your actions without the negative connotations of blame. Understand that mistakes are part of the learning process and do not define your worth.
Step 3: Use Positive Affirmations
Incorporate positive affirmations into your daily routine. Read the following prayer and affirmation four times per day—when you wake up, during breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Don’t just read it; understand it, say it several times, and commit it to memory. This will help you transition from negative to positive self-talk.
Prayer (credit to Iyanla Vanzant):
"Dear God: I ask for and open myself to receive the presence of Your wisdom. I ask for and open myself to recognize the truth. I ask for correction and open myself to be directed. I ask for and open myself to be healed of all thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that lead to or support the tendency toward or habit of blaming others. I ask for and open myself to be delivered from whatever it is within me that motivates me to make others responsible for what I do or do not do, what I say or do not say, what I have and do not have. Help me, God, to see myself and others rightly. Help me to stand in the fullness of power and purpose that You have given my life. Help me, God, to know that You are the reason and the cause for every moment of my life. Help me to recognize that I am learning and growing through every experience. Lift from my eyes the veil that prevents me from seeing how I contribute to those things I blame others for doing. Open my ears so that I will hear and recognize any mixed blame messages in my speaking. Open my heart so that I will accept any correction that You may want me to receive. I affirm and accept the power of Your presence within me. I surrender and release anything and everything in my mind or heart that motivates me to look outward before I turn within. I turn within to You right now as my Source and my Creator. I turn within to the presence of Your love and light. I accept total and complete responsibility for every aspect of my mind, life, and being. I now choose to bring my mind, heart, and life into perfect alignment with Your will. I surrender all blame and finger-pointing. I claim total, complete, and perfect healing in my mind and heart. I rest in Thee. I let it be! And so it is!"
Affirmation:
"There is no one to blame. Standing prayerfully and powerfully, I accept full responsibility for every aspect of my life."
Step 4: Consistency is Key
If you do this every day for one week, you’ll begin to transform your life, your confidence, and your approach to your wellness and weight loss journey. Remember, weight loss doesn’t start in the gym or with a fad diet. It starts with your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
Final Thoughts
Transforming your self-talk from negative to positive is a powerful step toward achieving your weight loss and wellness goals. It’s not just about what you eat or how much you exercise, but also about how you think and feel about yourself. By eradicating negative thought patterns like blame, you pave the way for a healthier, happier life.
Remember to subscribe, like, save, and share this with anyone who needs it. And don’t forget to register here and turn on your notifications for Wellness Wednesdays, because we’ll be doing this live, and I want you to join me.
Stay healthy! Stay happy!
References
Vanzant, Iyanla. Personal Development Techniques.
National Institutes of Health (NIH). Research on Physical Activity and Health.
Journal of the American College of Cardiology. Study on Exercise and Longevity.
Comentários